[snip] wow. [QUOTE] Stage 1 Rog tells us that he's coming over Stage 2 Des replies, cool you can have my flat, I'll stay with SO Stage 3 SO informs me that she has sublet her flat Stage 4 Des tells Rog that he can't have the flat, as SO is staying with me Stage 5 Des realises that he won't be in Paris, so says sorry, but at least you'll be able to get free kip now. Stage 6 Des tells Rog that we're going to Bilbao[/QUOTE] This is the bit that is still a bit unbelievable, tbh. The way it seems from here: Des & Rog are mates. They haven't seen each other for a while; they live in different countries. But Rog likes Des, and wants to meet up for a beer and a chat over a couple of days. Rog pulls his finger out, books flights. Tells Des. Both have a happy smile that they'll be able to chew the cud for a couple of days in the flesh. Des has work dump on him. [I fail to see a link with the next bit...] Des decides to go to Spain, whilst his good mate Rog is meant to in Paris. Or, in a simpler way; you've got a mate coming over to see you. And you decide to go to Spain instead. And you have the brass-necked check to call *him* arrogant?