[URL]http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/4016075.stm[/URL] Article about how much an employer can pry into your personal life. This was submitted in the comments section at the end: "I can understand this situation well. I am a high paid IT professional in the city. I also lead what some people would term an alternative lifestyle. I am involved in the BDSM [bondage, discipline, sadomasochism] community, I am bisexual and polyamorous. I currently have four partners - my wife, another male and a female couple. All of them know about each other and most have other partners that I also know about. There is no cheating involved, we are all very open and honest about it and all the relationships are long term and very stable. While these are perfectly acceptable to all those involved, I somehow think they would be very unacceptable to my employer, so while at work I have to pretend that side of my life does not exist. My partners are in the same situation. Anon, London"